Roland Dürre
Monday December 31st, 2012

My Catholic Upbringing

It is one of the lessons I learned that the quiet days of Christmas and the New Year are quite suitable for re-evaluating your own life compass. Where am I heading towards? I tried again this year. Incidentally, however, there is no tomorrow without today and no today without yesterday. Consequently, my pondering led me back to my roots. This is about things that particularly moved me during my course of life. And I remembered times long past. Now, in order to put a lid on them as well, I will publicly describe those times. Maybe others who experienced similar things can benefit, too.

When I was eight years old, they prepared me for Holy Communion – also known as First Holy Communion (Erstkommunion). After a fairly normal catholic upbringing (not very intense, more sanctimonious), I – along with other Catholics in my class – was massively instructed during religious education lessons at primary school.

We were in the third form. After Christmas, the preparations for the momentous event got really under way. The first step towards First Holy Communion was to make us all extremely familiar with the martyrdom of Christ. I remember highly sadistic self-adhesive pictures. We had to buy them and then illustrate hand-written texts in our “Passion Exercise Book”.

After Easter, the “bootcamp” gained momentum. First came confession. We had to practice intensely for this. Confession would make us clean. Since confession makes us free from all sin, it must happen shortly before the First Holy Communion. For example on Saturday afternoon if you intend to take the Holy Communion on Sunday. And then you have to do everything in order to prevent sinning during the night from Saturday to Sunday – for example against pinching a bit or having unchaste thoughts (in fact, at the age of eight the latter was not yet a problem). We also practiced doing penance after the confession. You had to say the Pater Noster and the rosary slowly and humbly.

The re-education continued. After the confession came the Holy Communion. We learned that, for a good Catholic, it is the highlight of the week. Even if the week was really bad, it does not matter. Because we live for the Sunday, when the Lord comes to visit us. For an eight-year-old, there were quite hard weeks in 1958. Except that mostly Sundays were no better, either.

But this was not a problem, because, after all, we only had to suffer the misery of this earth until death would deliver us. And then we, as chosen Catholics, would get to heaven. To be sure, it was not easy, because the devil was after us pure souls everywhere. Always and everywhere, sin and atonement were present. So first and foremost, we had to get through. Which is why there was confession and Holy Communion.

Then we practiced Holy Communion. You were not allowed to eat breakfast before the Holy Communion. Mental purity and physical abstinence were absolutely indispensable requirements if you wanted to host the Lord.

He came in the form of an oblate, the Host. The pastor put it onto our tongue. That was also something we practiced. We had to let the body of the Lord melt in our moths, because  “you cannot bite the body of the suffering Jesus with your teeth“ – said our religious instructions teacher.

Well, that is what it was like. Those were all things they pushed into our childish brains. For a certain span of time, they were even a success. Because when you are nine years old, you still believe what the grown-ups tell you.

Today, I am glad to have discovered shortly after my First Holy Communion that I cannot really find much use for the “punishing variant” of God. Neither did I, at the time, think of a ”loving one“. However, it did not take long for me to discover that God was easier to find between the massive trees that grew in the quiet of the Wittelsbacher City Park than in our Church of St. Antony. And my decision was made.  When I had confirmation – that is the second certification a true Catholic has to suffer – I already was in a state of inner rebellion. I only suffered the ceremony under protest.

That is how I experienced it. Today, I wonder what would have become of me if I had ”purified myself“ every Saturday and then “received the body of the Lord” on Sunday. How would I then have been supposed to suffer life?

Consequently, I am very happy to have put a lid on my Catholic past when I entered puberty.

RMD
(Translated by EG)

Roland Dürre
Sunday December 30th, 2012

The Burning Thorn Bush

A short time ago, I saw “Moses” at the Münchner Volkstheater. I was deeply moved by the play. It also activated my knowledge about  “the burning thorn bush on the Horeb Hill“. This episode marks a significant change in religious history, because here was the first time God made a pact with his “chosen people“ – at least that is how the story is interpreted by the humans. And ever since then, the traditional and often so-called “holy“ stories of human history are characterized by a God who plays the role of an alliance partner with your own interests or group.

In my book, however, the very idea of a “chosen people” drives me crazy. I think of a terrible analogy with our late history. After all, we, too, ran after a maniac less than a hundred years ago. He claimed to lead a race of superior beings into a thousand-year future, as was befitting for said race. And in doing so, he caused endless misery. Perhaps he, too, heard a ”burning thorn bush“ speak to him at some time in his life?

And there is no end to insanity. Tanks are blessed by military priests. Suicide murderers blast themselves into the sky in the name of God. And God is constantly called the alliance partner with their own interests. This is the exact opposite of a world full of love, respect and honour. And in the “Holy Land”, the situation is more complicated than ever before …

All I can recommend to you is: go and see Moses at the Volkstheater. And in a few days, I will tell you about my own religious experiences when I was between nine and ten years old.

RMD
(Translated by EG)

P.S.
The picture is part of the press release (Pressematerial) submitted along with the play. It belongs to the Münchner Volkstheater. The copyright is with the photographer Arno Declair.

Roland Dürre
Friday December 28th, 2012

It Could Have Come Straight From My Heart!

Again and again, I read wise books. There are many of them, and new ones appear all the time. And more often than not, I close them and put them away after only having read a few pages or chapters. Regardless of the fact that they actually sound quite interesting. Basically, it is because it always seems to me that they are not saying anything that is news to me.

Whenever I attend conferences, congresses or conservatively structured scientific events where knowledge is presented to me by way of speeches from the pulpit, I often get this uneasy feeling.

If then as terms like success, ethics, leadership, morals, planning, strategy, entrepreneurial culture, values, goals and goal-agreements, future,… become part of the presentation delivered with a huge amount of self-righteousness, I often wonder at all the things people know or profess to know. And then my stomach starts rumbling. Despite the fact that I, too, like talking about these topics. But I do it in the full knowledge that I,  do not know the answers, either. Consequently I talk about these things because I want to motivate people to think about them. You could say I want to question other people’s – and my own – certainties.

Then I meet people who want to “profile” everyone and put everything, no matter if it is alive or dead, into “Balanced Scorecards”. And they speak about the “Human Capital” of an enterprise or a community. That gives me pause.

And whenever I sit in a circle with people who want to make all the difference, who approach the topic in a terribly modern and strategic way, who formulate huge goals, who dance from one utopian idea to the next and where “a mountain is in labor but all you get in the end is a small mouse” (“der Berg kreisst …”), then I feel  really poorly. Those are the times when I think I really could have made better use of my precious time.

One evening, I was, again, discussing one of these topics from the world of economics with a very cherished female friend via email. Here is her reply:

… when all is said and done, we also miss the link to craftsmanship, apprenticeship, making, experimenting, piloting (this is where I see my personal interest), because basically economics are always some sort of mental game based on hypotheses, rather than a creative approach towards re-structuring the world. …

And suddenly I feel great. This is exactly what I want! So there are actually some people who are not only highly esteemed by me but also can spontaneously formulate well and in a concise way what I feel. Many thanks to my friend – whose name I will intentionally withhold.

To make up for it, I look forward to the next BarCamp – such as for instance the PM Camp. Because this is where you talk about your problems and ideas in a truly sincere way, where you exchange experiences and underlying ideas, share knowledge on a market place and acquire knowledge from practical applications for practical applications.

RMD

(Translated by EG)

Roland Dürre
Thursday December 27th, 2012

Tweets on Twittering and Blogging #147

Here are my tweets of last week on:
Blogging and Twittering, Wisdoms and Rules:

130103 Misery has large feet – also true for twittering and blogging? #Twitter #Blogging #Wisdom

130104 Misery has excellent hearing – also true for twittering and blogging? #Twitter #Blogging #Wisdom

130105 Misery comes without having been called – also true for twittering and blogging? #Twitter #Blogging #Wisdom

130106 Misery will breed lack of faith – hopefully not for bloggers and twitterers! #Twitter #Blogging #Wisdom

130107 Weeds will not leave the garden alone – also true for twittering and blogging! #Twitter #Blogging #Wisdom

130108 Bad grass never dies – hopefully not true for twitterers and bloggers! #Twitter #Blogging #Wisdom

130109 Weeds will sprout better than wheat – also true for twittering and blogging? #Twitter #Blogging #Wisdom

There is a new tweet each day. See twitter.com and “follow” RolandDuerre!
Enjoy!

RMD
(Translated by EG)

P.S.
I took the proverbs from Alle deutsche Sprichwörter.

Gastautor(en)
Wednesday December 26th, 2012

Christmas Greetings to all Sysadmins!

Here is an article by a much-loved IF Blog friend whose IF Blog comments we enjoy fairly often. It is Hans Bonfigt. For me, it was a total surprise that he now, for once, accepted the role of guest author. Here come his:

Christmas Greetings to all System Administrators

If we are totally honest, there was always this special way in which “we” IT persons have always been, well, what in our country you would call “wound up”. No, it has nothing to do with Mr. Jobs’ plagiarism. Instead, it is owed to a certain lack of understanding:  “You only start working when the lights are turned on”, is what they said about us. Of course, my dear users (we know no worse name to call anybody), how else are we supposed to repair the systems you, once again, managed to damage, if you are still sitting in front of them? Formerly, it was not possible at all, because the typical work place used to be a one-desk system where, naturally, only one person could work. At some point, the machines became ‘capable of multi-tasking’, but that did not mean the users had learned to work with a multi-tasking device. We are a little more demanding – we mostly want the machine exclusively for ourselves.

And while you have been lying on your sofa since at least last Friday, a small minority has been busy since Friday noon trying to bring order back to where you produced rubbish. Their maximum number of hours of sleep is two in 24. After all, we know what outcries we again get to hear tomorrow, on Thursday, if some minor glitch is still discovered: “WE CANNOT WORK …” !  –  Well, tell us something that is News to us!

Indeed, every year the Augean Stables you produce in our systems get more annoying and, above all, bigger. And you just do not seem able to learn. Mind you, I never seriously assumed you would stop putting the post-its with your passwords on them underneath the mouse mat. After all, I know what stupid expressions you choose and there must be a place where all those facebook losers originated.  Well expecting something like a minimum of responsibility – that would be truly foolish. If that were what I expected, I would have chosen another job.

Yet, over the years, I actually had hoped you might at least form a habit of doing those things that would make life easier for you: but nothing could be farther from the truth!

– Use no spaces and no umlauts in file names – that is what we have been preaching for more than twenty years. And, above all, do not copy the entire text or your document into the file name. You of all people, who you are not even capable of distinguishing between a capital ‘O’ and a zero, should definitely not take for granted that umlauts, or even only upper or lower case are implemented cross-platform and interoperable in file names. Let alone in your so-much-loved windows, which, incidentally, only knows the “8.3″ nomenclature – which stank to high heavens even under DOS.

– For at least as long, we have been preaching that you should “save shared files centrally AND STOP MAILING THEM TO EACH OTHER”. And we also tell you, “USE THE CORRECT CITATION METHOD and stop forwarding all the never-ending exchanges of replies and replies to replies at the bottom of each mail”. So, guys and dolls, I have now been sitting in front of a 24 TERABYTE mail spool since last Friday and am expected to downsize it to 12 TB. And you can bet that this is exactly what I did. And you cannot make an omelette without breaking eggs.

– How often have we told you to empty your rubbish bins? But do not worry, this is also something I did for you. The razor sat as deep as your neck.

– Since we are at it: I also removed all your browser caches. Because I was simply not in the mood to save the huge pornographic collection you designed with all your clicks and to migrate it to the new SAN you claimed was necessary.

The information society definitely no longer has a slim, even face. Instead, it has a bloated visage like Dirk Bach. Thinking of former times makes me nostalgic:

I was among those who actively remember all the punch cards: the maximum source file size of the KIENZLE SLM was 2,780 lines, which just about fitted into a small suitcase. It was truly a nuisance, really heavy and it definitely took time to ‘do a quick copy’. Merging was hell on earth. We all definitely had to be word perfect in the machine language, because an assembly run with a comparable number of cards took 2 1/2 hours. If you were not able to patch manually, you were literally “at the end of your teethers”.

The ECMA-34 – cassette was a blessing. Well, my dear users, you know it as a music cassette, but basically, it had not even been intended for you. Rather, it had been intended for us. An entire suitcase of punching cards was now small enough to fit into a shirt pocket: there was room for 900 groups with 256 symbols per group and you could use both sides. Even better: the 8-inch-floppies. It was no longer even necessary to load the source data. You could process them directly.

The next revolution were the “big” hard disc drives which no longer crashed every other week: basically, you no longer needed to handle data storage media, because everything was on the system, anyway. All there was left to do was save the data. Saving data with the half-inch tapes was somewhat tedious, the maintenance was quite time-consuming: you had to set the “cat’s eyes” which resulted from the printing head signal and the phase-delayed echo by 180 degrees of the reading head correctly when using the oscilloscope (yes: that is really what they were called). The tape machines were devilishly fast and had an almost unlimited capacity.

With the Cartridges, ibs, the QIC Cassette, affordable systems were now available. Our first sweetheart managed to process 20 MB in half an hour.

We are talking about the time when those unappetizing “Commodore” machines were flooding the market. They looked like bread shelves. This was in the late 1980ies.

So what exactly had changed?

Currently, I am supposed to design a complete SAN over the holidays. ALL, and I mean rally all data of a medium-sized enterprise should be stored there. And I have to delete ALL. Of course after having made a copy on tape before and, naturally, redundantly. And because it is important: also dissimilarly redundant.

The Cartridges have become smaller and faster. Currently, more than 140 MB are flying from the tape to the hard disc per second. That means the system manages about seven times as many data as were common in the 1980ies on the QIC 20 cassette. Instead of 3.5 hours, we now need one second.

This equals a production increase of 1,259 %.

But, hey, is that REALLY true?

The enterprise I am currently working for also had a QIC-20 tape station in the 1980ies. It was connected with an IBM /38 which supplied the entire enterprise with the necessary infra-structure.

Basically, this is exactly what the new IT is doing: supplying 200 persons with diverse programs, just like it used to be. Maybe a few more persons are working there today. In the 1980ies, a migration took three days – in the new situation, I have already been at it for five days. And I will not be finished before tomorrow morning at five o’ clock. On the old machine, a well-trained service technician could do the job. The new system is ultra-complex, combining almost all the latest technologies in one box – in particular, it can no longer do without windows and the oh-so-great IBM RUBBISH-TOR – this is a pile of rubbish built from randomly connected JAVA parts that smells to high heavens. No human being can handle it. Luckily, I am not a human being.

Basically, the old machine was never out of order. To be sure, due to the redundancy, the new one is also never at a standstill, but individual components are faulty all the time. And the then necessary repair work makes you perspire with anxiety.

The old machine was really quick. So is the new one, but the JAVA/AJAX/PINGPONG – stupidity interface is extremely slow and the users are just sitting around and twiddling thumbs.

Yes, my dear users – I HAVE NO MERCY! You were the ones who wanted the GUI, now you have it. Low-quality raised eyebrows for low-quality employees. Each to his own.
But where did progress go? Didn’t we have it at some time in the past?

The answer can be found with Bertrand Russell. Let me cite once more:

Every technological growth will cause a corresponding growth in wisdom, provided it also means an increase in human happiness.

Vulgo: the IT landscape changed from being a ‘Tool’ to being a ‘Toy’. With all the unpleasant consequences. A short time ago, a secretary at Northwest AG told me how she had produced a letter ten times as fast using HIT/CLOU, an InterFace AG text program, than she can do it now with the current “Word” version. Mind you, she needed about the thousandth part of the computer capacity, main storage and disc memory.

We have become slow, obese and degenerate.

Well, and some way or other, the spirit is missing. There used to be a time when I actually enjoyed those “night-flights”. I relished the soothing noise of the air conditioning and, above all, I was absolutely certain that the job would be finished by the deadline.

After all, only the fact that I can grasp the design of a system at all will put me in a position to be able to take responsibility.

Today, I can no longer be sure I actually understand the complexity. And if there is anything I failed to notice over the last days, then 200 persons will not be able to work next Thursday. Neither on Friday. Neither the week after. Because we have neither programs nor data. Income and salaries will still be fine, that is done externally, but it is questionable if they can be paid.
And I had better prepare to live under the bridges.

And, YES, there are many persons who, even now, do something that is a lot more important. For instance all of the train drivers: unlike me, who is “haunted by” the idea of 200 persons, they are responsible for 800 persons. Or the stressed-out traffic superintendents who have to act with the highest possible responsibility, although they are given damaged machines to work with. If you take the degree of responsibility into consideration, basically everything becomes relative, even the money you get for it. For instance, what was Mr. Mehdorn “responsible for”?

In many ways, Roland is a model for me. In the years to come, I will start exercising more and downsize the admin job, which is still a third of my work life, until it dwindles to nothingness. Because it is a very tiring job. When I was an adolescent, I heard something Günter Grass said, “powerlessness tested with rubber walls”.

I would like to send greetings to all this world’s administrators who, equipped with Pizza, Cola, Junk-Food and Cigarettes, under high risk and with a relentless deadline and almost unendurable stress still manage to put enterprises back to the network on time for their first day of work.

Hans Bonfigt

I was truly delighted to read this article. Dear Hans, let me thank you very much for writing it.

RMD
(Translated by EG)

Roland Dürre
Monday December 24th, 2012

My Personal Christmas Greetings to all InterFace Stake Holders

Dear colleagues, dear InterFace people, dear stake holders,

Yesterday, when I was tidying up – as you know, Barbara and I will move out of our big house and into a smaller one this spring, because this is a better match for our situation in life – I found the manuscript of the speech Thomas Vallon held in the year 2000 when I celebrated my 50ieth birthday. Again, his words made me very happy. It is now just a dozen years since the time I first heard the speech.

In the year 2000, we still had the Deutsche Mark. It had been installed as a valid currency in the “Tri-Zone“ almost exactly two years before I was born. During those last twelve years, the world changed considerably. The same is true for InterFace. Our core enterprise alone, the AG, almost doubled its turnover and profit during the last six years. We were able to expand regionally and – together with friends – started to build up the InterFace group. We increased our relevance on the market, the reputation and prestige of our enterprise kept going up.

All these things give us reason to be happy and look to the future courageously. Yet sometimes I ask myself how all this was and is possible.

To me, it seems like there is a simple answer.

The only way we could achieve this is together. Consequently, I want to thank you all personally and very much, indeed, for everything you did in 2012 and during all the years!

And:
When all is said and done, we are all “managers”. It is not hard to do some managing. To be sure, the future cannot be predicted and decisions will always have to be made with an uncertainty factor. However, if we can manage to make more right than wrong decisions and more often do the good thing than the evil thing, we will do well. Even the famous “academica” have already accepted this fact when it comes to management science.

So my Christmas wishes are quite simple: may we, also in the future, more often decide in favor of the right thing and against the wrong thing. And may we all do the good things and leave the evil things undone! If we can do that, we will be able to cope quite well with the perhaps a little complex and always surprising future together.

With these words, I wish you all and all your families and friends a relaxed and happy holiday and an excellent start of a successful year 2013.

RMD
(Translated by EG)

Roland Dürre
Sunday December 23rd, 2012

Merry Christmas 2012 and a Happy New Year 2013

With this picture also used on the official InterFace Christmas Card of 2012, I want to wish all IF blog readers, partners, supporters and friendly persons a Happy Christmas 2012 and a successful year 2013.

In particular, I wish you all the best of health, active partnership(s) and as much success as possible, both on the job and in private life – in as many dimensions as possible!

What you see is the motive of the famous oil painting:
“Two men watching the moon”

by Caspar David Friedrich, 1819/20 | Galerie Neue Meister, Dresden in the contemporary interpretation by Johannes Naumann.

For the InterFace AG and myself, it is also a reminder of Jean Paul. In 2013, he would have been 250 years old. Consequently, the year is officially the ”Jean-Paul-Year“.  We join in the celebrations and support the club “Jean-Paul-2013″ that organizes this special year.

In 2013, we would like to invite you to join us as we get a better understanding of this very special person. Among other things, we will have three IF Forums where we want to build a bridge between the past and the present.

As the year goes towards its end, it is a good idea to do a little thinking and “re-structures ones compass a little bit”. Perhaps the following sentence can help:

Life is long, but time is short – it is nothing but moments.

This sentence is also by Jean Paul (* 21. März 1763 in Wunsiedel; † 14. November 1825 in Bayreuth)
from the story
The Wonderful New Year’s Eve Society (1801)”

Consequently, my wishes for you are that the coming year may be full of nice moments.

I wish you a time of contemplation during the Christmas season and a Happy New Year 2013!

Written at the end of  2012

RMD
(Translated by EG)

Roland Dürre
Saturday December 22nd, 2012

2013 – brand eins in January

On December, 21st – well before the festivities – it was sitting in my letter box: the first brand eins of 2013. It was a rather thick and heavy message for 2013. Actually, the shrink wrapped media package weighed a whole kilogram, or, to be quite precise, it weighed 973 grams. In the internet era, I would call that pretty much.

My first thought was of the poor postman. If only a hundred of the people living along the one kilometre long Waldparkstrasse were intelligent enough to subscribe for brand eins, he would have to carry almost a hundred kilograms. Mind you, this is only for our street.
So it is quite a good thing for the postman’s bicycle that all those elderly gentlemen living in the aging Waldparkstrasse (I will soon move) like it best to spend their leisure time polishing their luxurious limousines. Consequently, they have no time left to read a good business magazine. As a consolation, I can tell them that this is actually a good thing, because they would not understand most of the brand eins articles anyway – and then they would probably just get annoyed at the New World.

Incidentally, the brand eins supplement is about two-thirds of the magazine. It is called CITY OF WOOD (sub-title: ”more goes“) and was financed by the B&O group. On the back side, in very small script, it says: “brand eins intelligence”. Maybe this is supposed to mollify those readers who, as a matter of principle, consider supplements undesired SPAM.

Yes – it is indeed sometimes hard to distinguish between a gift and SPAM. But now, during the Christmas season, I am prepared to be open-minded. Consequently, the first thing I do is get rid of the loose adverts and throw them into the waste paper bin – and then I start attacking the beef.
The title does not mince words:

Be less nosy 
(with no “exclamation mark”, the “less” crossed out).

It does not come as a surprise that the focal point written underneath is “curiosity”. What strikes me is that nobody ever asked if it is Neugier or Neugierde in the German version. And what is the difference if both words exist? So far, I have not thought about it.

brand eins admonishes us to be curious? I find that ok. After all, curiosity promotes the thirst for knowledge and is also useful, if not necessary, if you want to question everything in life, doesn’t it? In my book the terms nosiness and curiosity have a positive connotation. They represent the demand for transparence and clarity. And these are two values I consider particularly important for a social community. We need transparence with all data and information and clarity when it comes to values and social consensus!

When I opened the magazine, the first thing I read was the editorial by Frau Fischer. I rather like it that she “finds it hard” to find a dark side to curiosity. “What dark side” – I ask myself and continue reading. And here I can see it, the dark side. After all, “Neugier” literally means “being greedy after something new“. So there is the ever so greedy greed. Consequently, curiosity means greed after what is new. And that would be something negative?

Well, I think: perhaps greed as such is something good? Something that drives us, but something the moralizing institutions of many dark centuries tried to keep us away from, just like lust and many other nice things?

Anyway, I will definitely read this brand eins relatively thoroughly and I hope I can manage to do so before the New Year starts.

RMD
(Translated by EG)

Roland Dürre
Thursday December 20th, 2012

Children are Men’s Responsibility

I am fed up with the discussion about “a too low birth rate in Germany and what the state could do about it“.

😉 Consequently, I take part in said discussion.

First and foremost, in my opinion the state should normally leave it to the individual persons to decide how many children they want. Even a population policy that seems rational or reasonable – perhaps for strategic reasons – like in China has two sides. I cannot “ethically” judge it.

But I get particularly upset whenever I hear the cry for and the discussions happening in this country about child-care centres (note the abbreviation Kita!) and child care subsidies. Consequently, I will now write down my own ideas.

First statement:

You should not separate a child from its mother too early in life. The child might suffer early fear of loss. Which might then prevent the basic trust we all need so very much in life from being built up properly. Being a layman, I do not know how long the necessary time for a close mother-child relationship should be. However, I believe when we are talking issues of this importance, we should always try to “err on the safe side“. And this means that, in this case, actually “a little more” might be better than too little.

Consequently, it is a good idea for mothers to have the opportunity to spend as much time with their toddlers as possible. In a rich, modern and humane civilization, this should be possible. Society, enterprises and the state just have to want it.

In my opinion, there might be a correlation between the number of child-care places and the number of births, the former might even explain the latter. However, I do not think there is a causal link. It is just possible that in a “child-friendly“ society, there is more readiness to invest in something like a child-care centre. To me, it does not really sound plausible that a couple decides whether or not to have children dependent on whether or not there will be a place for their children in a day-care centre.

Second Statement:

Something else – and perhaps this is more relevant – gets more and more obvious in my perception. It is not the women who decide how many children a couple will have! In my environment, there are quite a few couples where the woman would actually have liked to have or have had a child (or even more than one). And mostly the man is the power behind the decision against children or for only one child.

Women – being the balancing and partner-oriented creatures they are – accept this. They love (and fear) their husbands and do not wish to cause emotional difficulties with their “inappropriate and irrational demands”.

Perhaps the women find it a little easier to accept the male demands and abstain from having children in a “reasonable decision“ because it is also quite comfortable not to have children. It certainly makes the course of life less complicated (see career and self-fulfillment) and thus seems to have quite a few advantages.

Conclusion:

To me, it seems a wrong assumption that women in our cultural area decide how many children they are going to have and that their decision is based on what infra-structure the state provides or what career chances remain for them. No – it is the men who mostly determine how many children there are in a partnership. Why don’t you just ask a few of the couples you are friends with how many per cent of the “mutual decision” were the man’s?

RMD
(Translated by EG)

P.S.
Future is female!

Here are my tweets of last week on:
Blogging and Twittering, Wisdoms and Rules:

121227 Unjustified curses will not hit home – good to know, twitterers and bloggers! #Twitter #Blogging #Wisdom

121228 What has not yet happened, might still happen – so be patient when twittering and blogging. #Twitter #Blogging #Wisdom

121229 Blunt knives will not cut through – so please be precise in your formulations when twittering and blogging. #Twitter #Blogging #Wisdom

121230 Unoiled hinges make a lot of noise – also when blogging and twittering! #Twitter #Blogging #Wisdom

121231 Work you are not used to will give you blisters – also when twittering and blogging?! #Twitter #Blogging #Wisdom

130101 Asyncronous time makes asynchronous audience – be careful, twitterers and bloggers! #Twitter #Blogging #Wisdom

130102 Misery will make you a better person – also true for twitterers and bloggers?#Twitter #Blogging #Wisdom

There is a new tweet each day. See twitter.com and “follow” RolandDuerre!
Enjoy!

RMD
(Translated by EG)

P.S.
I took the proverbs from Alle deutsche Sprichwörter.