The older I get and the more I learn, the more I realize that enmity is the major reason for failure and grumpiness. Unfortunately, enmity keeps creeping up from even the smallest cracks of human life. And mostly it is totally unnecessary.
Like hatred, enmity is a parodoxon (Parodoxon). One person hates another person and wants to destroy him. Yet, the hated person remains unscathed, while the person who hates is destroyed. This means that a person who hates someone will always first and foremost destroy himself. And the person who was hated can laugh. …
The same is true for enmity. You are annoyed about something or someone. And you want to find a way of showing this to your environment. Perhaps it happens totally subconsciously – you just want to tell someone about what annoys you. This is how you grow enmity towards others and yet the one person you harm most is yourself.
Fear is the mother of enmity. It nourishes enmity and its siblings. The big sister of enmity is distrust, the small brother is sadness. Sadness, like grief, sorrow, balefulness and heartaches are the opposite of joy. They will destroy joy and lead towards frustration. Which is the enemy of success and contentedness. Thus, fear destroys courage and without courage there is no joy.
The opposite of enmity is philanthropy. You will succeed best if you learn to distinguish between good and evil and if you do the right thing more often than the wrong thing.
To be sure, you must avoid looking at others and succumbing to “but this is how everybody does it”. You have to question your own prejudices and your decisions have to follow your goals in life. This also means that you must not act because of some unimportant context or for reasons of wrongly interpreted considerateness.
And above all: trust must be your “default value”. This is the only way to overcome your own lack of courage and the fear that will always linger in the back of your mind. Fear, distrust and enmity will kill us. But we should kill what kills us. Consequently, we have to make anti-fear, anti-distrust and anti-enmity our tools and practice courage, trust and joy. Because those are the simplest keys to success …
Incidentally, this has nothing to do with “being a good person”. No: “being good” is egotistical. After all, this is about making yourself a success. Only if you are a success yourself, you can also make others a success. Only if we feel well, we can do well by others. And we should only safe the world if we think of ourselves. After all, we are a part of the world that is not insignificant to us.
RMD
(Translated by EG)
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